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Get Off My Internets Is Good Marketing for Your Personal Blog

For those who aren’t familiar, Get Off My Internets is a blog and forum that lampoons popular ladyblogs—fashion and “lifestyle” blogs especially. (I don’t mean ladyblogs like Jezebel or The Hairpin, but mostly personal blogs.) GOMI users are often decried as vitriolic bullies, a complaint that is not entirely wrong but also not entirely correct. Commenters can be mean, but often they have a point, like “shilling for every random company makes you look cheap and tasteless”.

High-profile bloggers with “snark threads” on GOMI should pay attention to what their detractors say, especially since GOMI commenters are avid readers of the blogs they enjoy trashing. Some bloggers recognize that GOMI runs the gamut: Mike Gilger of The Fresh Exchange wrote, “I expected to be upset and angered, but instead, by the time I got to the bottom of the forum, I was feeling inspired. It inspired me to start being more open about work, rather than […] vague about the actual struggles we reference. I want to find a more balanced way to show the beauty and the grit.”

wereburger collage
Hot dog (or demon?) collage by stallio.

GOMI creator and moderator Alice Wright told The Daily Dot that the forum’s enthusiasts are “people who work really hard and read blogs for entertainment. They get […] annoyed when bloggers post about their hard, busy days of going to aerobics class, eating a bowl of oatmeal, and taking a picture of it. And if readers want to offer any critique at all, bloggers don’t want to hear it.” Much of the anger on the forum is a reaction to clumsy monetization attempts that don’t respect readers’ intelligence.

If you would like to obsessively read more about GOMI, which is what I do whenever I discover something that interests me, I suggest 1) checking out the site itself, and 2) reading “Inside the Internet’s Craziest Destination for Blogger Hate” by Chavie Lieber. Then, yanno, do some Google work. Whatever. I’m not your mom.

So ANYWAY, when you set up your GOMI profile you can link to your personal blog or any other website that you want to promote. If you have the time and inclination to add more ~social media~ to your life, it’s a good idea.

Of course, be aware that using GOMI in a spammy way will not work. That is a terrible strategy. Don’t try to play SEO games or who-knows-what may have occurred to you. On the other hand, frequenting GOMI in a way that contributes to the community is fantastic PR for your blog. You are given an opportunity to demonstrate your valuable insights to people who are dedicated blog-readers. People who are critical thinkers (mostly). Pretty much the optimal audience, right?

Freelancing Downsides

This post has been sitting around as a draft for more than a month. Whatever.

I’ve decided that I don’t want to be a freelance writer. Even if the effort-to-pay-ratio were better, I still wouldn’t want to freelance. I’m not interested in the kind of writing that brings in freelance money. (What’s lucrative? Business writing of various kinds.)

Freelance Ain't Free
Illustration by Mikey Burton.

I want to write to entertain, which means that I’m competing with a million other kids who can turn a phrase. We all want a slice of the limited pie. I have to figure out how to make myself prominent, how to jostle to the front. Consumers must be convinced that my work is valuable.

The original subtitle for this website described me as an “independent writer”. That’s still how I identify. It describes my outlook, both practically and philosophically: I’d rather control the whole process, without catering to anyone else’s strictures.

Obviously I can’t completely do that. For example, I don’t know how to build a website, so mine is made with Blogger. I don’t know how to make printer ink, so I buy it. The list of things that I can’t do entirely by myself is endless. Even when it comes to the simple writing, I need support. One or both of my parents will read each first draft; often Alex does as well.

Guy Offers To Pay For Your Mistake Stories

Basically reposting an ad I came across in the “writing gigs” section of Craigslist. I thought it was funny and intriguing, so here ya go:

“I’m creating a podcast a la This American Life or Invisibilia (I know, these are the best, but aim high, right?) where I get to do what I do best: tell compelling stories. And every story needs a hero. Not the dragon slaying princess saving kind. Real life heroes. The kind who made huge reality altering mistakes and have lived to tell about them.”

The best part is that this fellow, named Jason, is paying $25/hour for an interview. Have at it.

The House Is Almost Erected

half-built house

Sighted in my neighborhood. For some reason I find half-built houses very poignant. (Enough so that I used to have an entire blog about the topic.) Maybe other people feel the same way about children, that they’re full of potential, poised on the point of blooming. Parents get wistful when their offspring grow up, worried about the inevitable loss of innocence.

That’s not exactly how I regard unfinished houses. After all, a house never had any innocence in the first place.

Arresting Quotes From The Blazing World

Last month my book club read The Blazing World by Siri Hustvedt, which is about a frustrated woman artist. The novel is remarkable, but this is not a review. I want to discuss a couple of quotes that grabbed me.

On being best friends:

“We were a team of two against a hostile world of adolescent hierarchies.”

That resonates. Being a teenager sucks in myriad ways, one of which is the constant feeling of social alienation. I don’t know if that feeling is universal, but certainly a lot of people experience it. During middle school and high school my friendships were self-protection against the brutal clique-ism, against the shame of eating lunch alone. Manufactured terrors of teenhood. You’re nobody if you’re not surrounded. I didn’t submit to it entirely: I spent hours in the library watching My Little Pony on YouTube or surfing Know Your Meme, which is super embarrassing in retrospect. But I still think “How’d it get burned?!” is the funniest thing.

The friendships that I’ve kept, that I still maintain, are based on genuine connection. My best friend recently messaged me on Facebook, just to check in, and I felt a surge of affection. A warm glow arises whenever she gets in touch. Forgive the cliche, but we’re kindred spirits.

On the irrepressible subconscious:

“Mysterious feelings: ingrown, automatic, thoughtless. Before words. Under words.”

I love the idea of “before words”. It makes me think of HP Lovecraft. In his fiction, monsters destroy the people who glimpse them, even if the characters aren’t attacked directly. Every horrible creature he writes about is supposedly beyond description, beyond the power of reason and language.

It makes me think of Sylvia Plath and her Freudian obsessions.

“Before words” makes me think of the sensation when I wake up from a dream with a vague concept, more like an impulse, unable to remember exactly what was happening. But I wish I could act on it.

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