Writing about the fallibility of recorded memory, Walter Kirn cautions, “Despite our tendency in the computer age to think of ourselves as soft machines, the human mind is not a hard drive, a neutral repository of information.” Rather, “Memory is an imaginative act; first we imagine what we’ll want to keep and then we fashion stories from what we’ve kept. Memories don’t just happen, they are built.”
Beautifully put, and very true. We do not impartially, objectively store all of the information gathered by our senses (at least not in a retrievable way). We pick and choose the images and conversations that will create narratives, often self-serving ones, and reconstruct our stories every time we recall them.
You can only trust your mind when it’s skeptical of its own results. Even then, are you sure that you’re sure? This is why eye-witness testimony is dangerous.
Dave Pell ruefully describes giving his son “paparazzi” treatment at the toddler’s birthday party, positing, “The digital age gives a new (and almost opposite) meaning to having a photographic memory. The experience of the moment has become the experience of the photo.”
What are we sacrificing when we save so many snapshots?
UPDATE: Some telling lines from “The Problem with Eyewitness Testimony”:
“The process of interpretation occurs at the very formation of memory—thus introducing distortion from the beginning. […] Rarely do we tell a story or recount events without a purpose. Every act of telling and retelling is tailored to a particular listener[.]”
“[T]he mere fault of being human results in distorted memory and inaccurate testimony.”
Thanks for pointing this out, Sonya. This is why I didn’t pull out my camera on Easter while my daughter was doing the Easter egg hunt in our home. I wanted to be completely immersed in the moment. I know there are probably better examples, but that was the most recent one I could think of.
That’s a good example! It’s something special in your daughter’s childhood, so you have to weigh the benefit of preserving the moment versus being there fully while it’s happening.